CULTURE
INDIAN WOMEN
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INDIAN MEN
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Indian culture is a very serious and complicated culture. There are many rules and expectations that sometimes are very hard to exceed.
Indians are very aware and mindful of social order and their status with other people including their family, friends, or strangers. People are defined by the ‘groups’ they belong in (like their family, religion, career path and city) instead of individuals.
Sikh is the religion Jess and her family believe in. Sikhism stresses the importance of doing good actions. Sikhs believe that the way to lead a good life is to keep God in heart and mind at all times, live honestly and work hard, treat everyone equally, be generous to the less fortunate and serve others.
Quotes Decoded-
1.
Joe: I've never seen an Indian girl into football.
Mrs Bharma: She shouldn't be running around with all these men showing her bare legs to 70,000 people! She's bringing shame on the family. And you three shouldn't encourage her! Jesminder, you get back home now!
Jess: I nearly scored from 25 yards today. Bent it and everything. I could have carried on playing all night. It's not fair that boys never have to come home and help. If I get an arranged marriage, would I get someone who'd let me play football whenever I wanted?
---------------- Most Indian girls aren't allowed to play soccer because it goes against many of their traditions, like the uniform that shows a lot of bare skin. Indian girls are supposed to be proper, not running around with a ball. Boys on the other hand get more freedom to do whatever they wanted and dress however they want to, but girls have many rules and restrictions.
2.
Teet's Dad: Look, we're not trying to cause trouble. We just felt it our duty to tell you.
Mr Bharma: You know how hard it is for our children here. Sometimes they misjudge and start behaving like the kids here.
Teet's Mum: All I know is that children are a map of their parents.
-----------------This is a problem in Indian culture. Young teenagers are being seen not as individuals, but as their family. This could be a problem due to the pressure of having your family’s reputation resting on your shoulders, and can maybe even drive that one person to rebel from the stress of having to be perfect everywhere and always.
3.
Pinky: - Well, you make sure it doesn't, all right? Look Jess, you can marry anyone you want. It's fine at first when you're in love and all that but do you really want to be the one that everyone stares at every family do because you married the English bloke?
Mrs Bharma: Chi Chi Chi. He was touching you all over! Put his hands on your bare legs! You're not a young girl any more! And showing the world your scar!
---------------------Indians are very aware of what other people say about them as this quote from Mrs Bharma and Pinky depicts. Pinky’s comment also shows how very wrong people find it for Indian’s to marry another race.
SIKH MARRIAGE
The Sikh marriage is called Anand Karaj.
Requirements to have a Sikh marriage:
ON THE DAY: SIKH WEDDINGS
Most marriages are in the morning. They start with both sides of the family meeting, and then verses from the Sikh scripture are sung. The two sides say the Sikh greeting to each other: "Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh" which means ‘To the Wondrous Giver of Knowledge; to whom also belongs victory’. Sikh hymns are sung and the boy and the girl sit side by side facing Guru Granth Sahib. The girl sits on the left side of the boy. The couple and their parents stand up and the Blessing of Waheguru (the Wondrous Giver of Knowledge) is said for the start of the marriage.
The main ceremony is very short and simple. The bride and groom wear a sash over their shoulders, and the bride’s dad places the sash from their shoulders into the bride’s hands. After this there are many other hymns are sung and then the reception commences.
Quotes Decoded-
1.
Mrs Bharma: I was married at your age! You don't even want to learn to cook dhal!
-----Indian women used to get married very young, as most other cultures used to, but now in the more modernised world people wait until they’re older to marry.
2.
Soccer Team Girl: So, you can choose, does that mean you can marry a white boy?
Jess: - White, no, black, definitely not, a Muslim, no way!
---- Every culture is a bit racist towards others, as this quote shows that Indians can only marry other Indians.
3.
Photographer: Beautiful...Eyes down! Look sad! Don't smile! Indian brides never smile. You'll ruin the bloody video!
Indians are very aware and mindful of social order and their status with other people including their family, friends, or strangers. People are defined by the ‘groups’ they belong in (like their family, religion, career path and city) instead of individuals.
Sikh is the religion Jess and her family believe in. Sikhism stresses the importance of doing good actions. Sikhs believe that the way to lead a good life is to keep God in heart and mind at all times, live honestly and work hard, treat everyone equally, be generous to the less fortunate and serve others.
Quotes Decoded-
1.
Joe: I've never seen an Indian girl into football.
Mrs Bharma: She shouldn't be running around with all these men showing her bare legs to 70,000 people! She's bringing shame on the family. And you three shouldn't encourage her! Jesminder, you get back home now!
Jess: I nearly scored from 25 yards today. Bent it and everything. I could have carried on playing all night. It's not fair that boys never have to come home and help. If I get an arranged marriage, would I get someone who'd let me play football whenever I wanted?
---------------- Most Indian girls aren't allowed to play soccer because it goes against many of their traditions, like the uniform that shows a lot of bare skin. Indian girls are supposed to be proper, not running around with a ball. Boys on the other hand get more freedom to do whatever they wanted and dress however they want to, but girls have many rules and restrictions.
2.
Teet's Dad: Look, we're not trying to cause trouble. We just felt it our duty to tell you.
Mr Bharma: You know how hard it is for our children here. Sometimes they misjudge and start behaving like the kids here.
Teet's Mum: All I know is that children are a map of their parents.
-----------------This is a problem in Indian culture. Young teenagers are being seen not as individuals, but as their family. This could be a problem due to the pressure of having your family’s reputation resting on your shoulders, and can maybe even drive that one person to rebel from the stress of having to be perfect everywhere and always.
3.
Pinky: - Well, you make sure it doesn't, all right? Look Jess, you can marry anyone you want. It's fine at first when you're in love and all that but do you really want to be the one that everyone stares at every family do because you married the English bloke?
Mrs Bharma: Chi Chi Chi. He was touching you all over! Put his hands on your bare legs! You're not a young girl any more! And showing the world your scar!
---------------------Indians are very aware of what other people say about them as this quote from Mrs Bharma and Pinky depicts. Pinky’s comment also shows how very wrong people find it for Indian’s to marry another race.
SIKH MARRIAGE
The Sikh marriage is called Anand Karaj.
Requirements to have a Sikh marriage:
- Both husband and wife have to be Sikh or they can’t get married
- Sikh marriages can be arranged by the parents or could be a love match
- Unmarried couples can’t have a child until they are married or they can’t get married at all.
ON THE DAY: SIKH WEDDINGS
Most marriages are in the morning. They start with both sides of the family meeting, and then verses from the Sikh scripture are sung. The two sides say the Sikh greeting to each other: "Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh" which means ‘To the Wondrous Giver of Knowledge; to whom also belongs victory’. Sikh hymns are sung and the boy and the girl sit side by side facing Guru Granth Sahib. The girl sits on the left side of the boy. The couple and their parents stand up and the Blessing of Waheguru (the Wondrous Giver of Knowledge) is said for the start of the marriage.
The main ceremony is very short and simple. The bride and groom wear a sash over their shoulders, and the bride’s dad places the sash from their shoulders into the bride’s hands. After this there are many other hymns are sung and then the reception commences.
Quotes Decoded-
1.
Mrs Bharma: I was married at your age! You don't even want to learn to cook dhal!
-----Indian women used to get married very young, as most other cultures used to, but now in the more modernised world people wait until they’re older to marry.
2.
Soccer Team Girl: So, you can choose, does that mean you can marry a white boy?
Jess: - White, no, black, definitely not, a Muslim, no way!
---- Every culture is a bit racist towards others, as this quote shows that Indians can only marry other Indians.
3.
Photographer: Beautiful...Eyes down! Look sad! Don't smile! Indian brides never smile. You'll ruin the bloody video!